Trust is a buzzword, sure; but its being overused and whatnot doesn’t necessarily mean we can ignore the issue altogether.
First, a quick note about what I’m not necessarily talking about when I use the word trust. When I say trust, I don’t mean a predictive sort of trust. I’m not talking about the sort of trust that develops between people over time because they learn how a person tends to respond to things.
And I’m not talking about the kind of trust you “learn” at teambuilding events when you fall backward off some tree stump in the woods (or in some hotel conference room or whatever) and into the outstretched arms of your teammates. I mean, I’m sure it’s fun and all, and I’m all for teams having a good time together. I just have no idea how that actually helps you that following Monday morning when customers are yelling at you, teammates are copping an attitude with you, and your manager’s being a real tool. But that’s another post for another day…
What I am talking about is a trust based on people being human and vulnerable with each other. Teams with this kind of trust tend to be open, unguarded, passionate, and…well…human.
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It’s a little bizarre, because this sort of trust is so difficult to build, but at the same time it’s the sort of atmosphere that most humans tend to want on at least some level. I mean, when we think about leaders, for example, almost no one wants to work for managers who think they’re perfect, never ask for help or ideas, hold grudges, assume everyone’s up to no good, and so on. That sort of stuff drives employees everywhere bonkers, right?
I’ve talked about being real and human before here, and about vulnerability-based trust here, if you’re interested. But what are some of the warning signs that you may need to work as a team at becoming more human, vulnerable, and trusting? Here you go:
1. Teammates try to hide their flaws, mess-ups, and mistakes from each other.
2. They don’t usually ask for help, nor do the offer it.
3. The team dreads having to meet or spend time together.
4. Teammates hold grudges like it’s junior high.
5. People assume negative intent on the part of others.
6. Almost everyone’s wearing a mask of some sort; facades abound.
So how about it? Do you see some or all of these on your team? If you do, there’s a good chance you’ve not yet established an environment within which your employees feel able to be open and vulnerable with each other.
As leaders, we’ve got to be vulnerable first, and we’ve got to create an atmosphere wherein being vulnerable and trusting is the norm, not the exception.