Take a deep breath. Relax. Everything’s going to be just fine.
You see, some pretty smart people put you where you’re at. And it probably wasn’t a unilateral decision; it was probably a group decision that you — yes, you — were a good candidate for the position you currently fill.
Now, is the gig exactly what they described to you in that interview? Well, no. But seriously — what position ever is? Roles, like the companies within which they’re situated, evolve. They move and bend and strain and stretch to meet the needs of the team — and ultimately the organization — at given points in the organization’s story.
Your position is no different.
But you don’t understand my particular situation, Matt.
Well, I might understand a little more than you think, but your point is taken. By the same token, there are some universal truths here. I know half of you just bristled when I said universal truths, but don’t get your relativistic panties in a wad. Let me finish. Then you’re of course free to do what you’d like with your undergarments.
It’s highly unlikely that you were the only one who applied for your particular role. Especially in the economy of the past several years, the competition was probably pretty stiff. Yet there you are, nameplate and all.
It creeps in during the meetings sometimes. It’s that damn feeling that you don’t belong. That you’re not good enough. That you don’t have anything worthwhile to contribute. That they’re going to see through you soon enough and buy into the lie that you’ve already bought into about yourself.
But stop for a second and consider that maybe — just maybe — they see something you may not or cannot see about yourself.
So quit trying to prove that you belong and just be.
Stop attempting to validate their decision to hire you and simply keep doing your thing. That’s why they hired you. To do your thing.
For should’s sake, stop feeling like you have to keep talking or saying something so they’ll think you’re worth your salary. Believe me on this: they’re not paying you by the word.
So take another one of those deep breaths. Be you. Don’t fall for the damn lies that your parents or teachers or voices in your head or horrible bosses or terrible teammates or ex-spouses or current spouses or even well-intentioned friends tell you about you or your work.
Because what they’re really getting at isn’t your work. It’s your worth. And they have no business there. They don’t get to touch that. It’s yours.
Someone just like you